Planning is Dangerous

Hello all, I received a recent email that went as follows:

Hi An-Y,

You have a really cute site, I’ve read a lot of it and I really appreciate your view on things and your honesty. You try to keep most of your life out of it, but I am curious what your goals are in life. I’m 20 also and I hardly have any idea who I want to be or what I want to do. I’m in college and my major is undeclared basically. I mean, they made me choose something because I’m almost a junior, but believe me, I don’t really want to be a Math major. I just don’t know how to choose the right career. Careers should be for life, what if I make the wrong decision? What are your goals career-wise or your plans for life? Thanks! (Permission to use on your site)

Sincerely, Amanda

Hi Amanda, I’m happy to hear you enjoy this little blog and I would like to apologize for my lack of updating lately. Considering you’re hitting that junior level, having a declared major is pretty important since there are so many requirements for each one. Maybe you’re letting the decision get to you too much. Decide what classes you have actually enjoyed and loved to learn in, see if any of the topics lead to careers that intise you. Keep in mind, this isn’t a final decision. People go back to school everyday to learn a new trade or major to begin a brand new career. Do what makes you happy and just go with your heart, it is the best advice a person could give you. You may think that planning your entire life out is ideal, but it isn’t. I thought that at 15 I had decided exactly where my life was heading and there was no way it was going to go any differently. Except the thing is, it did, greatly. I thought I’d be with the boyfriend I had, and somehow knew it wouldn’t last forever, but that I would end back up with my boyfriend from my freshman year. I thought, let’s call him Adam, would get back together and I would attend a four year university, we’d get engaged during my college years and get our own place. He’d have a great job as I graduated and then I’d get a perfect job as a teacher. By age 22, I would have married him and by 25, we’d have our first child. And then of course, the perfect little image of family would exist and we’d be happily ever after. You would have never guessed that at 20, I’m with a completely different man that I met at 18, I attend a two year college currently and will be transferring to a four year, we probably won’t be wed until I’m about 22 or 23 and children are probably at least at age 26 and that my goals are totally different. That teacher I wanted to be, transformed into a journalist and now to a senator with an environmental studies major. Things change awful quick, but that’s the beauty of life. Don’t be too quick to decide your future, just go with what makes you happy and act responsible with your decisions. As far as my life goals are, I guess that can be a whole new post. I haven’t sat down and expressed my goals lately  because they have recently greatly changed. I’ll write something a bit later.

That’s about it for now,

With Love,


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